Parabens, to use or not to use?

I have been scrutinizing every single item our family owns and uses, looking for red flags that may be dangerous to my family's health. Parabens are a funny thing. Some people think they are linked to cancer, others say they are totally fine. Either way, they are in a LOT of everyday items (toothpaste, lotion, shower gels for example....good thing I make my own of these things)

Here are a few sites I have read that have looked into.

http://www.thegoodhuman.com/2007/06/21/what-are-parabens-and-why-should-you-avoid-them/

http://www.breastcancerfund.org/clear-science/chemicals-glossary/parabens.html